When someone remembers small, random things you mentioned weeks ago—it shows interest.

When someone can sit in silence with you, particularly after a heated moment or while you’re upset, and it’s not awkward but calming—it shows comfort and trust.

When they adjust physical space subconsciously, like moving slightly so you’re on the inside of the sidewalk or closer to them in crowds—it shows awareness and a level of effortless care for you.

When someone isn’t overly nice to people they don’t need to impress. Basic respect is a given, but forced positivity can be a sign of being a pushover or not being genuine.

When they hand you the better-looking piece of food without thinking—it shows they’re willing to provide in small ways.

Being excited to tell you about their past—it shows honesty and interest.

Going out of their way to check in during intimate (not exclusively sexual) moments, especially if they have background knowledge about your traumas, past, and dislikes. It may seem basic, but many people rely purely on body language and don’t take the time to actually check in,it shows care and understanding.

When they slow their walking pace to match yours without you asking—basically not rushing ahead or making you speed up, just naturally matching you.

When they find comparisons between you and their surroundings or are reminded of you by random things. This can range from “this random dude reminded me of you,” to “this Snorlax plushie looked like you,” or “I saw these brownies at the mall that you’d love.”

Having a good natural scent, or finding my natural scent attractive or intriguing. No specific explanation—smell is actually very important to me in defining who I’m compatible with.

Completely disregarding the opinions of outsiders on realationship matters and the overall realationship–never helps and actively ruins relationships,it’s OUR realationship,not theres,any opinion or action taken should exclusively be the result of personal thoughts and interrelational meditation

Not feeling comfortable joking about cheating or leaving for someone else—small, but it shows respect. It also shows that you aren’t willing to casually disrespect the relationship. Boundaries differ from person to person, but anything that could reasonably be interpreted as genuine or create insecurity should automatically be treated as a hard no unless both people have clearly agreed otherwise.

Allowing me to be defensive when faced with sarcasm or rude behavior, and having the situational awareness not to immediately criticize me for asserting my boundaries or refusing to let even common disrespect slide. Think of a genuine conversation—usually about something trivial—where someone suddenly becomes condescending. Naturally, you’d feel offended. A partner who understands that reaction shows common sense and a genuine interest in not embarrassing you or escalating the situation further. If it’s especially awkward or tense, sometimes the best option is simply to step away. It also shows real respect for your boundaries—because if someone takes offense at you asserting yourself, they likely don’t truly ,care about your feelings or limits,you fingshouldnever expect your partner to be a pushover with you,esp if you only feel defensive when it’s smb your partner takes issue with—knowing damn well that you wouldn’t gaf if you were the one being disrespected,don’t defend smb that a close one is beefing with,it’s hella embarrassing and could easily be a private comment rather than a public embarrassment and week long feeling of being unheard and humiliated for your potential partner,if you want to shoehorn yourself in the situation,act as a mediator rather than picking sides,makw yourself useful instead of somebody to be ashamed of

Let’s stop derailing,let’s hear your green flag