now this does vary from place to place, just because men/boys in my area aren't total mysogynistic asshats doesn't discredit your experience with men in your area.

men and women do have their struggles and even as a female I don't think being a man is necceraly easier, it depends on where you are in the word. like sure, beauty standards for women are horrendous but if you've even seen or met some boy affected by looksmaxxing spaces you'll know while it's different, it's not really much better.

I get we get things like periods but that's not really anyone's fault as it's a natural thing we evolved.

sexism is terrible and I do have an uncle who is extremely sexist and how he treats women is terrible but even still I feel like at least for people in first world countries while the struggles are different, they aren't neccerally better or worse.

calculating suffering is hard and very subjective. someone might lose their house in a fire and might be minumumly affected while someone's dog dies and that completely shaders them.

toxic masculinity and toxic feminuity are both bad things and I feel like they're kinda like two sides of the same shitty coin society has created for people.