Professionalism within the staff team
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Just before I start, I love the effort moderators put in, I love the moderators and I love the staff team. At the end of the day, i'm just a silly 14 year old on the Internet showing her opinions. I don't want to cause upset nor outrage but this is just a thing I have picked up on and don't particularly like in certain situations. The staff themselves have said multiple times that we have the right to submit any complaints as long as we keep things civil, I intend to do that. In short, don't ban me please. I'm really scared.
So I don't like the attitude that a staff member shows sometimes, yes I think in certain aspects it is necessary but it can get out of hand and could easily offend or cause upset to certain users. I'm not going to say their username, as I don't want to rub it into the dirt as you will. I still respect and appreciate all the work this staff member has put into bdns. I do not think it is appropriate to tell kids, when you are an adult to 'STFU'. I think that especially as part of the staff team, you should show patience and a bit more respect, even towards posts we all believe to be a bit dumb, a bit stupid (probably how you'll see this one)
As a member of staff I think you should be a bit more considerate, sometimes I'll agree with your views but still, could you maybe DM the users instead? Posting and telling them they're stupid or whatever can be humiliating and will also probably be why most users are just a little bit more intimidated by you than they should be. Users should feel comfortable and confident when talking to a member of staff.Also, there have been multiple posts that they've made with similar attitudes. I'm not just seeing one and getting all worked up. I've had conversations with multiple users saying that they have similar views on this but yet didn't really want to say anything, which is completely understandable but I don't want this behaviour to continue going under the radar (or over?) but I also don't want other users to witness this behaviour and think it is accepted, it is not. I could be sounding hypocritical here, but the main difference here is that I'm no longer a higher up staff member and since rejoining the almighty, beloved public relations team, I have been deliberate to make sure that I don't come across as rude or disrespectful towards any users. This is waaaaay longer than planned, but the point came across (right?)
Just a reminder too, please do not try guessing the staff member even if it seems blatantly obvious to you. Also, remember to keep it civil in the replies. Thank you.
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"Telling them they're stupid" <-- never happened
Referencing back to my earlier post, read carefully:
It is incredibly and extremely upset and tiring when you and the rest of your moderation team have to repeatedly repeat ourselves and say the same thing over and over to the same exact people, especially when it isn't that hard to comprehend it. This whole "rub it in the dirt as you will" is quite foolish alone, I am barely online nor do I really make Public Appearances or Speak with anyone through the forum. Thus, I have NEVER overreacted unless you are dragging things from the past (as in months ago, last year)
you may be hurt or offended by me telling you to stfu, but really, it was not directed towards anyone specific and rather a whole group, including adults. it's necessarily a matter of whether or not you have enough skin to the point where you aren't bothered by it
if it takes me having to tell anyone to be quiet than that's what it'll take. I do not sugar coat, I keep it real and speak freely, which is ideally what anyone is allowed to do
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"Telling them they're stupid" <-- never happened
Referencing back to my earlier post, read carefully:
It is incredibly and extremely upset and tiring when you and the rest of your moderation team have to repeatedly repeat ourselves and say the same thing over and over to the same exact people, especially when it isn't that hard to comprehend it. This whole "rub it in the dirt as you will" is quite foolish alone, I am barely online nor do I really make Public Appearances or Speak with anyone through the forum. Thus, I have NEVER overreacted unless you are dragging things from the past (as in months ago, last year)
you may be hurt or offended by me telling you to stfu, but really, it was not directed towards anyone specific and rather a whole group, including adults. it's necessarily a matter of whether or not you have enough skin to the point where you aren't bothered by it
if it takes me having to tell anyone to be quiet than that's what it'll take. I do not sugar coat, I keep it real and speak freely, which is ideally what anyone is allowed to do
I'm not upset by your posts. But I just think, to put it blatantly, that there's been more than one occasion where I've thought 'Oh, that's a bit rude'
It doesn't matter if you wrote it with the intention of it not being personally directed towards people, but they could easily think otherwise. Yes, free speech does exist but I wouldn't just go telling a group of users I disagreed with to 'STFU' just because i'd seen their posts a bunch and was tired of having to explain something. They'd probably speak up with me and tell me that i'm being rude and more than likely- i'd get some sort of consequence. Free speech is good, but in moderation (heh, like a moderator. Get it, get it?) just uh- please take into consideration what i've said? I'd appreciate it, thanks for taking it well :)Also, to prove i'm not alone in thinking this. I've already had 2 DMs from people I don't regularly talk to saying either thank you for speaking up or I agree with you.
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Mother is very professional!
