Why is it so hard to get in a relationship nowadays

[andythespeedru]

Before anyone says that "oh there just not interested" which I can respect, but when they play you or you start to like them just to turn out there lesbian (don't saying I don't like them) over and over, it gets frustrating, like one time I was nice with a person and I guess I was making her uncomfortable by meeting her in a hallway we shared, but instead of talking to me that I was making her uncomfortable, she threatened me with a restraining order, so now I had to take a different route to get to class, were all good now but idk, has this happened to anyone?

[Nonbinary_wolf]

A restraining order 😨

[andythespeedru]

@Nonbinary_wolf yeah, and I was only trying to be nice, but its not the only time I had bad luck with relationships, like I said, I've been played before

[Nonbinary_wolf]

@andythespeedru That's shitty, I hope u can find someone who treats u the way u deserve to be treated. Ur a sweet guy and deserve better than that.

[andythespeedru]

@Nonbinary_wolf thank you nonbinary_wolf, but TBH, I think most of the people here would rather a boyfriend thats "a BAD boy", I will try to explain the best way I can because I am horrible at explaining things but great at seeing patterns (maybe because I MIGHT have autism because my baby brother has autism and I do the same things he does but anyways) either for a preference (like boys who like emos), something to complain about (doubt it is) or to make a relationship interesting like there's a good chance that he cheats so that way they can have drama? All that I know is that there are people who are actually looking for someone nice, but most people here see nice people has playthings just to entertain them and their friends.

this is uhh. maybe a little overkill to explain something that can be shorten down to "most girls like bad boys and play with the good ones" but it it is what it is.

maybe this is why people say "you don't want to look in my brain" and this is quite literal but tell me what you think? and I might come back next week with more story's because I have so many (which is a bad thing but I digress)

[Nonbinary_wolf]

@andythespeedru I personally prefer nicer people. That may stem from my fear of abandonment and nicer people r less likely to cheat, or it may just be that I don't want to be treated like something they can just use and then throw in the trash when they're bored. Either way, I'm like that, and quite a few of my friends on here r like that.

[andythespeedru]

@Nonbinary_wolf that's why I said MOST but I do understand that some people do want someone who is kind, but I have yet to find anyone for me that is looking for someone nice (except for 1 person) and I have seen people in long relationships where the both are kind to each other but some or most people I meet want "experience" or "a way to entertain"

[Nonbinary_wolf]

@andythespeedru Who is it? Maybe I can ask them if they feel the same if I know the person.

[andythespeedru]

@Nonbinary_wolf its someone not from here, you see I moved here about a year ago and I was in a relationship with that one person, I will tell you privately

[andythespeedru]

@Nonbinary_wolf IF you want to, I wont force you to hear me trauma dump if you don't want

[Nonbinary_wolf]

@andythespeedru I don't mind listening