Rant

[Nonbinary_wolf]

Can someone tell me how my mom went from saying she can't use my correct pronouns because she's "called me a girl my entire life" but can then turn around and tell my therapist when she talked to her that I use different pronouns then I was born with? Cause genuinely, I am confused. I told her almost 6 months ago that I used they/them pronouns and she said she accepted that, although she has yet to even attempt to use those pronouns for me. When I brought it up she said that "it's hard to switch" and when I told her about my gender dysphoria she said that people with gender dysphoria are "mentally ill," essentially saying I'm mental. So can someone please explain how she went from that to telling my therapist I use different pronouns then I was born with?

[_Izzy_]

Even if she views it as a mental illness (that you can't control) shouldn't she naturally want to accommodate for it by using your pronouns so you feel more comfortable and happy?? TvT

By calling it a mental illness she admits that it's biologically the way you are and that you can't control it, I feel like calling it a mental illness to invalidate your identity is contradicting because your just admitting that it's a ACTUAL biological thing if that makes sense

I feel like if a parent is willing to accommodate for their kids disorder when they have autism, ADHD and more then they should treat gender dysphoria the same way

I know its controversial but I actually do view gender dysphoria and being trans or nonbinary as a actual disorder but I feel like it being a actual real thing actually invalidates transphobia bc its not a choice and ppl already try to accommodate for disorders (like the ones previously mentioned) and gender dysphoria should be treated the same way, accepted and accommodated for, like the way y'all feel is real and theres a science behind it and theres ways to make you feel more comfortable in your own bodies, it should be taken seriously as a medical thing so y'all can live more comfortably and people can have a better understanding of it
Alot of people say this mindset is transphobic though

(Also i want to add gender dysphoria itself isn't a illness but a symptom of gender incongruence which IS a disorder)

[Nonbinary_wolf]

@_Izzy_ Even my piano teacher accommodates me being nonbinary by using my preferred name. If my teacher can accommodate me, my own parents should be able too.

[_Izzy_]

@Nonbinary_wolf fr the way nonbinary ppl are perceived rn is confusing for most cis people and your parents clearly don't get it, I hope that they make more effort to actually understand you in the future:/

[TH4TTR4N5F3M_VA]

my mom is the same. I just correct her in front of people to make her look bad

[Nonbinary_wolf]

@TH4T0N3TR4N5F3M I'll try this from now on when I feel confident enough.

[TH4TTR4N5F3M_VA]

@Nonbinary_wolf if you get the chance do it in front of her friends