Just before I start, I love the effort moderators put in, I love the moderators and I love the staff team. At the end of the day, i'm just a silly 14 year old on the Internet showing her opinions. I don't want to cause upset nor outrage but this is just a thing I have picked up on and don't particularly like in certain situations. The staff themselves have said multiple times that we have the right to submit any complaints as long as we keep things civil, I intend to do that. In short, don't ban me please. I'm really scared.

So I don't like the attitude that a staff member shows sometimes, yes I think in certain aspects it is necessary but it can get out of hand and could easily offend or cause upset to certain users. I'm not going to say their username, as I don't want to rub it into the dirt as you will. I still respect and appreciate all the work this staff member has put into bdns. I do not think it is appropriate to tell kids, when you are an adult to 'STFU'. I think that especially as part of the staff team, you should show patience and a bit more respect, even towards posts we all believe to be a bit dumb, a bit stupid (probably how you'll see this one)
As a member of staff I think you should be a bit more considerate, sometimes I'll agree with your views but still, could you maybe DM the users instead? Posting and telling them they're stupid or whatever can be humiliating and will also probably be why most users are just a little bit more intimidated by you than they should be. Users should feel comfortable and confident when talking to a member of staff.

Also, there have been multiple posts that they've made with similar attitudes. I'm not just seeing one and getting all worked up. I've had conversations with multiple users saying that they have similar views on this but yet didn't really want to say anything, which is completely understandable but I don't want this behaviour to continue going under the radar (or over?) but I also don't want other users to witness this behaviour and think it is accepted, it is not. I could be sounding hypocritical here, but the main difference here is that I'm no longer a higher up staff member and since rejoining the almighty, beloved public relations team, I have been deliberate to make sure that I don't come across as rude or disrespectful towards any users. This is waaaaay longer than planned, but the point came across (right?)

Just a reminder too, please do not try guessing the staff member even if it seems blatantly obvious to you. Also, remember to keep it civil in the replies. Thank you.

@spwnchild

Can you maybe stop bringing that into everything? I fully recognize and respect every religion. But Spawnism is weird as hell, it isn't a religion it's from a children's game and it literally encourages kids to SH. You yourself don't know much about spawnism but you still claim that it's a religion and not a cult. Actually research what you believe in, in depth, and then get back to me.

@Raven

I'm not upset by your posts. But I just think, to put it blatantly, that there's been more than one occasion where I've thought 'Oh, that's a bit rude'
It doesn't matter if you wrote it with the intention of it not being personally directed towards people, but they could easily think otherwise. Yes, free speech does exist but I wouldn't just go telling a group of users I disagreed with to 'STFU' just because i'd seen their posts a bunch and was tired of having to explain something. They'd probably speak up with me and tell me that i'm being rude and more than likely- i'd get some sort of consequence. Free speech is good, but in moderation (heh, like a moderator. Get it, get it?) just uh- please take into consideration what i've said? I'd appreciate it, thanks for taking it well :)

Also, to prove i'm not alone in thinking this. I've already had 2 DMs from people I don't regularly talk to saying either thank you for speaking up or I agree with you.

I've noticed that people are really romanticizing depression nowadays, I don't think it's really being taken seriously enough as a legitimate illness that needs to be diagnosed before you can just throw labels about. I'm not going to lie, I sound awful saying this but, I think people like to claim they're 'depressed' for attention. If you are not medically diagnosed, then don't self diagnose yourself! This goes for literally any mental illness, we are NOT in our 'depression era' we're in our 'Respect mental illness era' I've seen people doing this all over youtube and even some people on here. I don't understand why people would see it as 'quirky' or some sort of aesthetic. Can we just be more considerate?

Thank you

Kiwi is going through girlfriends faster than I can type out this sentence </3

Since you don't have your DMs enabled, I'll take this publicly. Stop being an absolute child. I made a few posts just expressing my opinion, a few days ago now but yet you're still apparently so fixated on them that you're still reacting to them with emojis. [censored] off and get a grip, people have opinions learn to accept that not everyone agrees with yours.

Hey all. Recently I've seen an uprising of unnecessary comments about irrelevant things, like for example randomly mentioning furries or femboys when they aren't really relevant to whatever's being discussed. It's not to say they're banned from discussion or whatever, but just please only mention things relevant or it might end in warnings for unconstructive topics or derailing Thank you :)

@Johnny.SS

Mate, your whole personality from what i've seen is your relationship. Nothing else needed to say from that. I'm not wasting my battery on some pointless nobody on the internet who thinks everybody wants to know details on their relationship. End of discussion.

Could you please stop posting about your relationship?? It's fine bringing it up every now and then when it's relevant but all I see from you is topics about your girlfriend. I've seen the reactions, some people clearly have similar views with me on this. In all due respect, please stop

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@NightmareWolfie @LenaFart @BritishUnity

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@laner2018 @faust @spamburger @yanderemenhera @french_fry_guy @sweetliketarmac (we share similar views)

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@sweetpuddin @Raven @Idyll @w1ckedsticky1983

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@Dailynews

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@lilly-therian @jace123 @kiwifarmsarkavel @ang3l

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@sarah2025 and Party but he changed his username more than he lied </3

I wish it had more mature users and not ones who think they're peak comedy all the time

CRAZY FROG

Spoiler

I have a hard time believing you're 20 but happy birthday

I'll see 'new users' around and then I'll look at their profile and it'll say they joined in like November. Like, the large majority of users now I still see as new. I still feel like a new user myself and I joined in APRIL It's not even like i'm not on much, because i'm literally on daily. I'M NOT UNC YET

What I mean by private option is like- whenever you post there's a button with a drop down feature of who can see your post, the options could be 'Only users I follow, select users (you'd enter their username), only logged in users, everyone and staff'

@Raven Well, I tried putting it in a nicer way. Raven always gets the point across. What a Goat

I'm back, unfortunately. That means that you unlucky lot have to deal with me for another year or two. Surprise! There seems to be a near complete new wave of users here. So i'll make my introduction short, hi i'm Aries (YourAriesBestie to be formal) I originally joined on the 17th of April 2025 and this account is my second one since I decided to delete the previous. Yeah, looking forward to seeing some familiar faces around here as well as the ever dreaded new ones