Why are we romanticizing depression??

YourBestie

I've noticed that people are really romanticizing depression nowadays, I don't think it's really being taken seriously enough as a legitimate illness that needs to be diagnosed before you can just throw labels about. I'm not going to lie, I sound awful saying this but, I think people like to claim they're 'depressed' for attention. If you are not medically diagnosed, then don't self diagnose yourself! This goes for literally any mental illness, we are NOT in our 'depression era' we're in our 'Respect mental illness era' I've seen people doing this all over youtube and even some people on here. I don't understand why people would see it as 'quirky' or some sort of aesthetic. Can we just be more considerate?

Thank you

spamburger

@Aries
I would agree largely with this but with some nuance.
I’d say some people don’t have access to the medical assistance needed to fully diagnose themself, (mainly on this site in particular) yet it would be somewhat stupid to deny what most obviously exists if they exhibit many tell-tale signs of a disorder.

I would say I have many of the signs of such an issue, and I do think it’s not central enough to be a main thing I speak of, but it does affect me, as it severely reduces a lot of motivation to work, and to do anything really at times.
That’s my subjective view on the issue.

There’s a fine line between being “performative” and genuinely just trying to understand yourself without professional help.
Something I entirely agree with is this; no mental illness/disorder is ever “fun” or “quirky”, it’s an issue that requires extra effort, and stress to live through each day. It is decreasing quality of life.
So when people make their entire personality about their depression it begins to seem strange.
I think it is possible (being entirely dismissive is exactly what isn’t wanted, so many people are invalidated) these people have depression, but using it unrealistically as an excuse to have attention-seeking and/or disruptive behavior is pretty noticeable, and this is something that is never alright.

ren

@Aries I have been thinking this for SO long, I actually have depression. Its not some grief or sadness. It's a mental illness. Its not a trend, an asthetic, an era. It's a sickness that takes peoples lives.

StarryPeach

WHY AREU TALKING CRAP ABOUT PEOPLE WITH DEPRESSION??!!! i lowkey have depression and this feels targeted to someone and some people. shut ur mouth. u hurt some people by saying stupid crap like that

StarryPeach

it dosent matter if people romantisize it or not.

ren

@StarryPeach Shes not, shes saying that people act like they have depression for attention, just because you have depression does NOT mean this is targeted, in fact it means the opposite. its calling out the posers. I have depression too. Shes saying people self diagnose themselves sometimes or say they are "depressed" just because they are sad. Depression is a mental illness. Hope this helps you understand her.

StarryPeach

still tho....who cares if there acting or not..

WeedAreTheWorld

@StarryPeach yes it does???

ren

@StarryPeach If your acting like you have depression then your disrespecting people that actually have it, and are just lying.

StarryPeach

gang i do have depression...im diagnosed...

ren

@StarryPeach Me too! This topic wasn't directed to you, I was simply trying to help you understand why she posted it, and why we should not romanticize depression.

StarryPeach

@Aries you say "acting" as if you assume people who put on sad songs or are legitimately sad, are people who fake it? are u a psychologist? do you know the person in question? i assume you don't if were making assumptions, respectfully id say get to know whoever, understand their conditions and what they went through. as everyone is different.

ren

@StarryPeach Can you take it down a notch-? I think she means people say they are depressed and then she later finds out that they were just acting like they were. I know Aries well, she would respect someone if they said they had depression. Also, she was referring to bdns AND YouTube, I'm sure she saw multiple posts saying something along the lines of "in my depression era".

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If you guys want my two cents on the situation, if you suffer from depression and dislike people who play pretend, then I think you should probably be for sure that they're playing pretend before you do anything. But if you aren't suffering or diagnosed, mind your own business, if the people who are being mocked don't care, you shouldn't start fights for no reason. But the issue with calling people pretenders without confirmation, is the fact that depression isn't something with set symptoms. One person might deflect or act over the top while the other might lose motivation and act more down, one person might sleep in, while the other might not sleep at all. Depression can come in MANY different ways and you CANNOT eyeball it, not even a psychologist can for sure call you depressed without questioning you or testing you in some way, so it is unfair to make a callout post when you yourself don't know the circumstances.

StarryPeach

ty wolfie!! see guys

ren

@NightmareWolfie Obviously I agree, and I would support someone if they said they had depression, but I would still ask if they are diagnosed. I think its just stupid how people say they are depressed when they really are not

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Anywho, if I see bickering this is getting locked, if you disagree, just be friendly about it, alright? I know it's a touchy topic but you guys are mature enough to discuss it without problems

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@den Yeah well, everyone including those with depression naturally strive for some kind of gratification. If they're doing that they likely have other problems, and while I do agree with it being offensive, talking to a person in private about that is the proper way to handle it

ren

@StarryPeach See guys-? Wolfie didn't say anything to support either of us.. This is just a topic where Aries is saying people pretend to be depressed. And those people shouldn't do that, she never said anything about if she assumes anything or if she thinks people lie about it.

ren

@NightmareWolfie Completely agree