what should i do

les

im starting to really think abt it and i should probably drop my bestie since kindergarten... lmk what yall think :( so at first we had no problems until we reunited in 7th grade after 6 years. but i then remembered people change. she always talks shit abt people.. NEVER respects my boundaries knowing well im someone who is paranoid. btw not only does she talk shit at people she be badmouthing ME, her "bestie". to her bf and my ex... when i told her abt the stuf he did to me she didnt sound sincere at all and she sad she understood but if she really did she would understand just how painful it was to go through all that. she never listens to me, and she sometimes just straight up shames my body like she makes fun of m for having "no gyat" and bc of her i became more insecure bc guys a school were alr making dirty ass comments abt it . i told her i wish i had one bc im big and it would look slightly better but girly said "no youre too short it would look weird!!" like how is that supposed to make me feel any better?!!! she gets mad when i talk to her bf which ive known longer than she has but got upset tha igot upset bc she up HUGGED my (ex) man just before i got to like what are u so excited for huh??? she always seems to be jealous of me too whixh is probly where the insults are coming from. girly was talkin bout how she was tired of being seen as the weird kid and how guys alwas wanted me and she was simply just a second option. she tells my business to her bf which usully would not be a problem except he is BIGMOUTH, so there is one . she also never tells me anything than gets mad and im just ugh. im seriously thinkig abt it maybe i need to educate her on boundaries but she als never listens so lmk wha yall think i should do. honestly glad i got my phone took bc i probably wouldnt have found thi website with actually decent people. literally all my peers irl (NOT just friends) are just suc drama makers its stressful .

les

forgot to add, girly cannot mind her own business even if failure to do so resulted in being shot to death. i asked to borrow her phone to check my snap but for some reason she wouldnt let,go of it so she could see EVERYTHING i was doing.. which i understand its her phone she literally could have just said no. but she didnt. like girl thats still my PRIVATE conversations... as soon as i was done she snatched the phone and she didnt even let me log out . she lied an said it would randomly log out my account and i didnt believe hr for a second but she alr had to go. next day i find out from her bf that she went through EVRYTHING. messages, snaps, vms, EVERYTHING. and she talked to the guy i liked and full on embarrassed me... she found stuff tht was not forher, told hr bf who then told his little friends. i blame myself for using someone elses device t make sure people didnt think i ghosted them, but why the hell would she go through my PERSONAL MESSAGES. and then get upset when she sees something she shouldnt.

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that girl is probably been fake ass friend to you if she is talking bad about you behind your back her lying to you that saying snapchat randomly logged out that is bullshit it doesn't it only logs you out if you sign in from another device tell about Your private conversation to her friends is whole another level why she's probably fake ass i would probably drop that bitch from your life she probably got no chill for body shaming you

piercetheviolet

if i were you, drop her ass AND give her a taste of her own medicine. She doesn't deserve your friendship anyway, if shes just gonna treat it like shit. Thats not fair to you, or ANYONE she'd do this too. Nobody should have to experience that. Your perfect the way you are, and nobody should convince you otherwise. Own your flaws, accept them, learn to live with them. You dont need to change for someone else's approval. I understand we haven't known eachother ENOUGH to say we're friends, but i'd call you a friend, and bitches who fuck with my friends figure it the fuck out that i dont fucking play like that. Your friends are SUPPOSED to support you unconditionally, understand what your going through, and help you feel more comfortable n safe with them. She clearly isnt doing that for you. You shouldn't surround yourself in those kinds of environments.

les

@GhostfaceKisser thanks. i was planning on saying this all to her and honestly its kinda crazy how shed believe her man (which btw broke up with her last year bc some immature guys in our class told him to and he did it, and everyone started to cheer and i was there comforting her but she doesnt do the same for me) over me bc ive known her for over 6+ years and only known her "bf" for ONE!!!

les

@taytayy thank u. the sad part is most of my childhood friends were treating me this way for ages and i was to blind to see it... manipulation, bullying, badmouthing, placing me in drama i did not belong in and putting me in uncomfortable situations, i didnt realize until it was too late.

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@nelly GIRLIE!!!! THATS A FAKE ASS HOEE!!!!! i say you should ditch her ass like immediately. she dont deserve u hun!!! also going thru ur snaps??? sure it was on her phone but like. you dont do that. i was also protective of my phone (lols bc of traumaaa) and like. yeah. but. still bro thats UNCALLED FORRRRRRR thats private convosss
i think you should shove her into a ditch figuratively and literally. :333

les

@sam-the-man thanks im just like figuring out how to talk to her abt this

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@nelly i gotchu
the key to that is to be respectful about it even tho the other person is def not gonna be respectful back. that way if shit goes wrong, like hella wrong, you never fucked up and hey it might backfire on her if ppl are around
like just be "hey, i dont think we should be friends anymore, lately you've been (list her grievances with evidence) and that isn't okay so i don't think we should be friends anymore." or something like that
try to not get mad at her bc then it ends up ending ugly and you dont feel as satisfied yk
hope this helps

fatui

& if you get to stop being her friend but she keeps trying to bother you or spread rumors, ignore her!! schools almost never do much about situations like this, so try to be nice to all the people she knows so they're more likely to believe you in the case she spreads rumors

les

@sam-the-man thats exactly how i planned to do it!! my concern is mostly how she will react after and shes still frinds with my toxic ex bff so ik shes going straight to her.

Alastor

@nelly she is a fcking fake fr shes prob using u I would ditch her fr, she dosent deserve u, id tell this situation to somebody u trust and maybe ask for help, like what to say but ye she is fake and I feel so bad for u :c dont let her hurt u or spread rumors

les

@fatui shes not liked very much by anyone except for like two people so i think i should be okay. im usually nice to everyone and she tends to do very outlandish things without thinking abt others feelings, even talking to her abt it didntdo anything. her ex (whos a player tryna date every girl at school) showed her spicy pics to one of his friends who did not like her bc that was "his homie" and that dude leaked it during a field trip bc we were listening to music and we were accidentally singing a little loud and this guy across from us tod us to shut up. i apologized bc i have a severe problem with my voice probably bc of my poor hearing. she told him to shut up and mind his own business and that othr guy i mentioned earlier was right there so he airdropped the phto to some people who then saved it. and yk they BARELY knew each othr (her and her ex) but she gets upset when i talk abt how cute a guy is without knowing them like that. girly cannot keep a man... he tried cheating on her with me and i ss eveeything and showed hr. she believd me but still continued dating him and got mad that i "wasnt doing anything" when i LITERALLY was. he just wouldnt,stop. it is not my fault she chose to stay with someone like that

les

@AveryTheBlueFox she has nothing to useme for shes just way too nice to,everyone but the complete opposite behind their back

Alastor

@nelly I have a friend at my school who does that to me and it sucks

les

@AveryTheBlueFox aw im sorry :( i hope u build up the courage to drop him soon

Alastor

@nelly its a girl but what she does is she always acts nice around her friends but shes always mean to me like its a diff situation but like all the time she will say rude things to me or push me and one time she pushed me so hard, I started bleeding and she always talks about me behind my bk. She is such a fake and evertime near my mom she acts all "nice" and my mom believes shes nice but inside shes a b*tch and all my other friends agree she is a jerk and always says mean and rude things to me

les

@AveryTheBlueFox i meant,to say them i didnt eve realize i said him

les

and im so sory abt tha.

Alastor

@nelly its ok LOL