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what does curvy even mean anymore? (somewhat heavy themes and mentions of body-shaming) -
what does curvy even mean anymore? (somewhat heavy themes and mentions of body-shaming)I usually hear curvy used in place for word "fat" for example and the person being called "curvy" is well within a healthy weight range (like, let's say the woman whom is being bullied is 5'5 and 126lbs) and the women will make other passive aggressive remarks tords those women to the point now where I feel like that word is an insult and people would be mad if I used the word as a discripter for a woman.
for me, i'd use that term to describe someone who has a larger bust and hips but they have a smaller waist. their silloute would literally have curves in it. not as an insult or a replacer word for fat, not to say that people who fit into that definition are automatically healthy or anything like that. I just don't see why curvy has to be used as a stand-in for fat, if you're gonna call someone "curvy" nowadays in some areas and in some comment sections online, they'll assume you're hating on them.
i'd consider myself curvy, you're free to correct me or whatever, I genuinely have no clue my current weight but the reason i'd consider myself that is because I have a smaller waist and a larger bust/hips and I think my shoulders are a bit broad as well. I view the term "curvy" as a more netrual term to describe a body shape. it doesn't mean someone is necceraly over-weight/unhealthy. i'd assume I myself am overweight, but that doesn't mean that everyone who has a more, hourglass-ish shape is.
and I feel like another thing is, obviously we shouldn't be mean to people just for existing online, even if you think they are the human embodiment of pan scrapings from when you last cooked bacon, being catty to some randomass woman you saw on YouTube shorts posting about different types of flowers over her not being what you consider to be ideal is stupid and honestly just really fυcking sad bro, and most of the time the people don't look big at all, a lot of the time I'll see someone say "you look hella well fed, slay plus-sized curve queen" to someone who is frankly on the thinner side and obviously no hate to skinny people ether at all, they frankly get body shaming too, a lot actually depending on the region. (like where I live.)
idk wtf is going on now, bc is the in recent months I've seen body-shaming and cyber bullying become more common and widespread and things like "healthy body btw"
"curvy" "well-fed" "top-heavy" and so on become nothing more than insults and it's really sad. and not to be that guy but I feel like a lot of the (usually women) users who post that in a passive aggressive way are insecure and are using this as a cope and it sucks for all the reasons I mentioned above but i'll recap:
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terms to describe body shapes, or just the word healthy are now basically the worst things you could ever say to someone.
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this is just straight up cyber bullying and it's really damaging to have your body shamed to no end, you can change how you look, yeah? but sometimes this is pushing otherwise healthy people to do unhealthy things to try to curb the bullying.
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this is kinda a reflection of how the people posting this sort of thing feel about themselves a lot of the time i'd assume and it's genuinely sad and I pitty them. it doesn't justify their actions though, not at all.
now, i'm going to continue on for a bit longer to get things out of the way before wrapping up my post.
I believe a lot of issues aren't exclusive to one gender, but this I have noticed is common amoung women, body-shaming and cyber-bullying does happen amoung men and trans/non-binary folks but it usually looks different if that makes sense, men don't usually have curves the way women do and their bodyshaminng is usually over things like being skinny and not a shredded beefy gigachad sigmamale. and for trans/embys it's usually just gender dysphoria related.
also, there's a wide range of medically healthy weights you can be, health should be your top priority in life and not some random b!tch's opinion. always talk to your doctor about things like your weight if you are worried, you can also use BMI calculations online, a website will ask your age, weight, gender, and height and tell you if you'd be medically considered over-weight or not, but seriously, talk to your doctor if you're worried^^^ (minor disclaimer, BMI isn't the most accurite marker for health, but it's still decently useful, most doctors still use it to this day)
and if you're curvy and you're reading this, I wish you well. you don't deserve bullying for it, and I hope you're doing ok right now.
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anythingi'm going to give you my intestinal worms
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discord's AI moderation is [censored], and in other news the sky is blue -
do you like my big, TL;DR yap posts?@SicklSlayr yeah, I guess I will at some point
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do you like my big, TL;DR yap posts?@_Izzy_ yeah, I'll do that lol, I think i'll possibly start formating posts differently, like, making them more like this ↧
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do you like my big, TL;DR yap posts?yes or no?
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What has been your biggest regret (We dont judge)joining a bad discord server. I won't give the name, but the people and content in it fυcked me up and i'm lucky I wasn't harassed when I left. imagine like, the middle school mean girls trope but worse and the "middle schooler's" were like, in their 20's and severely mentally ill.
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When did you realise something had to change for the better?wensday, July 15, 2026
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What has something that was suposed to be bad actually worked out better?i've been on basically ever antidepressant know to man, they did nothing for me except make feel withdrawals (prozac is hell to come off of) and worsen my depression. i've been at higher doses of Lexapro than a lot of grown adults. I stopped taking them over a year ago, and I quit therapy. all the mental healthcare i've experienced was bullsh!t. i've written detailed depictions of things like psych wards on other platforms and such.
and you know what i've found? the most effective thing for my depression? literally just higher doses of caffeine. like deadass, prozac, Lexapro, ect at questionable doses didn't do what caffeine does for me, it's not like, magical happy juice, but it makes life worth living if that makes sense. it makes me feel enjoyment in the little things. it just gives me a reason to do things and it helps get rid of the numb.
now, please don't stop taking your meds just bc I (some randomass person on a nechie forum) never found any success with it and please don't try to treat MMD or any other mental illness with bang! energy. just like, common sense crap lol, i'm not a doctor and I do not recommend doing what I do -
What has been your favourite thing you have done this summer?caffine
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body reveal + showing vanity sizing and normal sizing on someone who's a lil top heavy@Grind idc if you call me dude, i'm pretty chill.
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body reveal + showing vanity sizing and normal sizing on someone who's a lil top heavy@Ria aw thanks lol
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do parents have a say once youre 16??@Aries where I live, I can make some desitions for myself, like, even if my parents didn't want me to drop out of school (I did, i'm getting a GED, I didn't just drop out to drop out. i'd be in college sometime in August if I signed up in time but I didn't so I gotta wait) at 16-17 I can do that, it's weird what you legally can and can't do in my region, like I can live alone in college but all paperwork needs to be filled out by my parents
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body reveal + showing vanity sizing and normal sizing on someone who's a lil top heavy@Grind bro it's fine, idc
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Its time.. Face Reveal.@Jace123 I am 17, getting ready to go to college and I still be speaking like that sometimes 🥀
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Its time.. Face Reveal.@Jace123 idk how old you are so I low-key whipped out some genalpha slang from 2022
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Its time.. Face Reveal.more rizz than my ex with the same name. you have 67 aura and all the skibidi slicers
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do parents have a say once youre 16??@_Izzy_ it's ok lol, good luck though
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do parents have a say once youre 16??@_Izzy_ in some places, you are of the age when you're 16, but the only catch is they have to be around your age so legally yes. but idk about your parents, if you don't feel safe telling them, don't and in two years you can do what ever you want regardless of what they want anyway