how do you deal with flashbacks?
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i have been having very bad flashbacks and b4 anyone asks, no. no i cannot just go talk to a shrink. that isnt an option for me.
they have been so bad that um well lets just say i've gotten hurt bc of them.
my flashbacks are being back in a nuthouse, the most depraved shit went on that i cant even begin to mention. psychiatric wards are hell on earth and have just broken what nugget of sanity i had left. bc of them, i wish i lived in the hell girl universe. other people in my life have contacted child protective services on those hell holes but the bastards running those places get full immunity along with staff. when you're cleaning blood from another kid off the floor bc the staff dont want to is when you realize there's no one who cares. i cannot just get help, thats not something i can do, the "help" is full of corruption, greed, and suffering. these flashbacks are just too much for me at this point and if you have them too please tell me how you cope -
As someone who deals with flashbacks, nightmares and episodes I can help. I understand what you mean about getting help isn’t easy because I even have a therapist and she isn’t helping me with shit. How I personally cope is doing things that I like or thinking about things that I like. Whenever something goes wrong or I’m having one of those episodes I just list all the amazing things that have happened to me and that it’s ok. Another thing that helps is knowing it won’t happen again, convince yourself you are safe, note your surroundings and process everything is ok. Whenever I Have flashbacks or nightmares I usually go to my older brother to help calm me down, if you have someone close to you who you feel safe with definitely go with them. I really hope this helps because it has definitely helped me
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As someone who deals with flashbacks, nightmares and episodes I can help. I understand what you mean about getting help isn’t easy because I even have a therapist and she isn’t helping me with shit. How I personally cope is doing things that I like or thinking about things that I like. Whenever something goes wrong or I’m having one of those episodes I just list all the amazing things that have happened to me and that it’s ok. Another thing that helps is knowing it won’t happen again, convince yourself you are safe, note your surroundings and process everything is ok. Whenever I Have flashbacks or nightmares I usually go to my older brother to help calm me down, if you have someone close to you who you feel safe with definitely go with them. I really hope this helps because it has definitely helped me
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ive been in psych wards too and yea i feel u, i was tied up a lot and i even slept tied to the bed, nurses laughed at my scars and some therapists were just cruel for no reason. i dont get flashbacks from the ward but i do from past assault that fucked me up a lot, i usually try to shake it off physically, like i get up, shake my head or talk/vocalize. sometimes i start doing something different, like drawing, organizing, going for a smoke, writing, watching videos etc.
i used to have them more often and i used to get more affected to a very bad and dangerous point, the best i can say is that your mind really evolves if you let it. write about it, talk abt it, don't avoid it. youre not going to forget, you have to confront it and make it part of your past. its hard and not fast but you need to endure and it will slowly stop taking up space in your mind and your life -
ive been in psych wards too and yea i feel u, i was tied up a lot and i even slept tied to the bed, nurses laughed at my scars and some therapists were just cruel for no reason. i dont get flashbacks from the ward but i do from past assault that fucked me up a lot, i usually try to shake it off physically, like i get up, shake my head or talk/vocalize. sometimes i start doing something different, like drawing, organizing, going for a smoke, writing, watching videos etc.
i used to have them more often and i used to get more affected to a very bad and dangerous point, the best i can say is that your mind really evolves if you let it. write about it, talk abt it, don't avoid it. youre not going to forget, you have to confront it and make it part of your past. its hard and not fast but you need to endure and it will slowly stop taking up space in your mind and your life@coolguy2007 this. Preach brother
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the level of neglect they have is astonishing, here's a little story from earlier this year:
i had a seizure, right? thats what they said. for three hours, maybe two, my body convolsed, i was still aware, it'd stoptfor a few moments and cary on for what felt like forever. im not sure the exact time, i was told my family would be called and i'd be taken to a hospital. no, what actually happened was, some lady who spoke very little English was yelling at me to clean myself up bc i'd thrown up all over myself and she made me take a shower. (you can imagine why the shower was unsafe af) then i managed to walk over to the nurses statoin. they said they wernt gonna take me anywhere. it finally stopped on its own and i fell asleep. they showed no concern. this place got away with one therapist for 200+ people, straight up lying to people (one girl was supposed to just be getting medicine and they kept her for over a week and it was somehow legal) they enabled a boy to do things i cant even mention on here ect. im obviously a minor so i cant sue but i wish i could with every fiber of my being i truly do. -
i think walk might have been a bit of an overstatement tbh, it took me a long time to get somewhere like 15ft away and an orderly helped me
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I used to have nightmares about a past experience quite often, only recently they stopped and now I zone out and randomly get flashbacks. This definitely won't work for everyone but I think of songs in my head and they calm me down. Mine are from like 6 years ago now so they're definitely not as severe as yours but I hope you're doing better now <3
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i agree with the songs part anberlin works for me inivable and [fin*] by them help. id find songs that relate to you
