do grades matter in a partner?

MyMelody

i kinda like this guy but hes lowkey a bum TvT like he doesnt rlly even try to do his work but like hes rlly cute and lowkey just bc you dont try in highschool means you cant be successfullll

i plan on like observing him more bc if he isnt lazy outside of classwork i wont rlly mind but if hes a genuinely lazy person who doesnt work hard for things that matter then ima prolly ghost him TvT
like i wouldn't mind being with someone whos 'dumb' if they like have a job and work and drive, all the 'smart' guys ive liked have been total j3rks TvT (AND broke af-)

i plan on asking what he plans to do outside of highschool to determine if hes a bum or just deosnt care abt school, teachers seem to like him despite how he doesnt rlly do anything in class:p

Luana.vasper

If he has no interest in bettering himself and keeping things in order while also wanting to live life as a permanent couch potato, I would say that's a red flag. But that's just me.

Noctis

@_Izzy_ Dum + smartie = great pair

The_Traveller95

my current partner was an A+ student when she was in school, and we have a great relationship.

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@_Izzy_ What happened to Johnny??

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@Noctis thumbs up frfr

MyMelody

@Rorschach he broke up with me to eat face with sum other chick, i was sad at first but im actually hella happy now and feel bad whenever i see him bc he looks so lonely and awkward and sad while im lowkey having my best school year yet TvT and theres this cutie who i rlly like rn

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@_Izzy_ Oh man, Im sorry even though you sound happy it doesn't seem believeable, mb for bringing it up.

MyMelody

@Noctis so far i agree hes so cute, today we had two classes in a row and we spent it just doing the work together, it was actually rlly cute and i enjoyed explaining the stuff to him and it was nice to be able to be with him and get our work done, idk if he felt the same but i rlly enjoy studying with him and i hope things stay like thiss (he also kept like leaning against my arm and messing with me which was rlly flustering TvT)

this may sound bad but i lowkey like having a dumby like i like helping him with his work its so cute^^ when i was with the other dude i actually struggled with finishing my work bc hed get done before me and wed talk abt other stuff and i wouldn't finish bc i cant talk and work at the same time:p

hes actually not dumb at all tho he just doesn't try TvT anyways hes gonna be teaching me spanish in the mornings so im rlly exciteddd

Noctis

Day I'm I wish I can upvote but I don't have privileges

Araghie

@Luana.vasper Will have to agree, a person who doesn't attempt in bettering themselves due to sheer ignorance laziness, or etc. is a red flag

MyMelody

@Luana.vasper yeah thats why i was hesitant bc i feel like having lower grades is a sign of that but hes actually not a lazy guy at all (atleast it doesnt seem that way so far) and supposedly is rlly busy outside of school, i think he just doesnt gaf abt school specifically TvT honestly my last bf got great grades but i see him as wayyyyyyy lazier then this guy ironically...

Luana.vasper

@_Izzy_ Well, I consider schoolwork and literal tedious and labor-intensive work very different when talking on whether someone is lazy or not.

Schoolwork, half the time, is unecessary for life as an adult. You can pass highschool with C's and D's and get a perfectly life-sustaining job and work your way up afterwards as an adult. (I know this because my own dad did it)

If he doesn't want to do that with his life afterschool, then that's when it becomes a problem. Though, being lazy with schoolwork still can be indicator of this type of mentality.

MyMelody

@Luana.vasper i agree now, atfirst i like worried abt shit that doesnt matter, how he gets bad grades, we dont know all of eachothers interest yet, my ex told me rumors abt him, he has a few exes, but honestly i feel like that stuff isnt important when it comes to love now... like im too superficial

hes a good person, shows interest in me, is working to get his drivers license and a job, hes rlly busy helping his fam after school and works out so he rlly doesnt seem lazy to me at all, his friends are pretty nice, so im giving him a chance:)
and hes teaching me spanish rn which i think is rlly cute:p

i hope my parents approve of him TvT i think they will but theyre rlly sceptical and dont trust ppl easily and always assume the worst first TvT

Luana.vasper

@_Izzy_ From what you've said, you seem to like him a lot, and he seems to like you just as much, and you both seem compatible.

He seems like a good guy that doesn't care for school and more for what happens in the future, which I wouldn't say is bad thing at all.

So, I would say go for it.

Luana.vasper

@_Izzy_ Oh, sorry about your parents. I can relate to that.

They're really controlling about my love life and obv want my bf (they don't even consider that I might want a partner or gf bcs they're homophobic) to have their views, which I hate. I don't really know how I'll deal with that when I'm actually interested in someone later.

I actually chose to break up with a bf bcs they were js being completely unreasonable and kind of rac1st, and I didn't think it was fair to him to make him go through that to be with me. He deserves someone better.

MyMelody

@Luana.vasper omg thats crazy, your situation definitely sounds worse, my parents are the way they are to protect me and while your parents may think theyre doing the same, they sound a ignorant or brainwashed, i hope they become more excepting in the future maybe TvT