Mom found out I am trans, help me!

[oj]

Hi BDNS, my mom found out I am transgender through my Discord DMS with my IRL friends. I am 14, and at the time I sent the messages (my birthday was recently.) She said I am an embarrassment and I'm too young, ill, a lost soul, ungodly etc. I have been experiencing gender dysphoria since I was a 5, and I've mitigated it but now I've hit puberty at a breakneck speed (I am biologically female) and everything sucks now. I've tried binding, but can't do it safely as I had been wearing multiple sports bras, which works, but its hard to breathe and my mom found me doing it before she found out I was trans. She called me disgusting when she noticed I had kind of deepened my voice. Ive been cutting my hair and shes even angrier and yells about it daily. After she found out i was trans, she acted like nothing happened in these days and tells me im a young lady when i dont dress feminine and tries to make me wear dresses. For some other info, she is supposedly progressive christian and also compares me liking girls to insane things like z00. Like girl is having a crush on Rosalina that bad?? Anyways, bye and please lmk safe binding tips (ive been using duct tape, ik its bad but the dysphoria is worse) and how to get called my chosen name. I'm FTM.

[[[global:former-user]]]

@oj K

[[[global:former-user]]]

You're Mom Should Support You For Who You Are It Doesn't Matter. If You Feel Like She's An Obstacle Idk What To Do About That But If You're Feeling Like She's Problematic I'm Here

[Enchanted]

I'm a Christian and if you were my son i'd support you im sorry your mother isn't more understanding of your feelings i wouldn't recommend duct taping your bust area if you have sensitive skin i'd be afaid it may rip you or cause irritation maybe you could try medical gauze the kind thats in a first aid kit they can be bought at walmart or like dollar tree ect as for your name when ppl call me something other than my nick name or name i dont answer them i pretend i didnt hear untill they address me properly you may get in trouble for that so maybe just start telling ppl " hey this is my name please call me this from now on i wont answer to anything else" and dont be afraid to correct them if they mess up or forget or even do it on purpose be firm but not rude if you ever need anyone to talk to my dms are open i hope i was helpful :) <3

[oj]

@Enchanted ah ok!! thx for the info, ill try the stuff. as for names tho i guess ill try it, but im usually only out at libraries and dont talk to many ppl, but ill try if i do meet anyone. again, thx!!

[Enchanted]

@oj np anytime <3

[[[global:former-user]]]

"A embarrassment" is definitely not something a mother should say. be proud of who you are

[AllVanster]

parent trans/homophobia has gotta be the strangest thing ever. idk what you could really do, from my experience if the parents are paranoid enough to look into your private messages theyre pretty much impossible to sway. just try and stay safe king

[w1ckedsticky1983]

Sheesh, i hate your mom more than mines based on js this info. I mean, tbh it sounds like you js gotta put up with your mom and keep being you till she gets used to your real self. Honestly, dont give a [censored] abt what she has to say. Im not trans myself, but my mom does the same tbh. She's always saying that im a lil boy and forces me to dress in more feminine clothes (tight shirts, no baggy clothes, womens section stuff only that she likes), so i kinda know where youre coming from a bit- It truly sux ur moms like that, but i hope you persevere, man XD youve made it 14 years alr, only another 4 more till ur free YOU GOT THISS XDD