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  • Johnny.SSundefined Johnny.SS

    @Yanderemenhera disrespectfully your comment misses the point and the “I’m ace so I don’t look at this stuff” doesn’t change the argument whatsoever 😭

    Being asexual is honestly completely irrelevant to the point being Made—You don’t have to personally consume sexualized content or straight pornography to recognize when something crosses the line into fetishization bc anyone with basic media literacy and tbh common sense can see the difference between a character being portrayed attractively and in an alluring and desirable and a character being reduced to a stereotype or sexual fantasy about their identity.

    No one here said drawing characters in revealing clothing is automatically wrong(which would be obv if you read through a bit closer before replying ) That’s not the issue. The issue is when the only time people start caring about a character or interpretation is when it becomes sexualized in a way that plays into fantasies about race, sexuality, or minority identity. That’s what blind fetishization looks like,only finding a character appealing in a sexual context.

    Your example about fanservice in shows is a completely different conversation. Fanservice can be annoying or excessive, sure, but that’s not the same discussion as minority identities being turned into aesthetic fantasies in fandom spaces because can servicey character can still be well written and appreciated

    And the representation point you brought up is also kind of beside the argument. Nobody said representation has to perfectly match every individual person because thats completely off and also dumb to say bc of course it won’t and shouldn’t be expected to, The discussion is about how fandoms sometimes only validate certain characters or headcanons once they become sexualized, which undermines the actual appreciation of those identities or themes.

    So yeah dude this isn’t about policing attraction or saying characters can’t be drawn attractively. It’s about pointing out a pattern where identities get reduced to something people want to fantasize about. That’s the distinction people keep glossing over.

    Not even to be that person but I hate how asexual its portrayed bc asexuals will act like they can’t comment on sexual matters to look more valid when it just waters issues down to “you only have a problem bc you experience sexual attraction” when that's obv not the case and I find a problem with it bc it objectively is a problem

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        • Johnny.SSundefined Johnny.SS

          @Yanderemenhera disrespectfully your comment misses the point and the “I’m ace so I don’t look at this stuff” doesn’t change the argument whatsoever 😭

          Being asexual is honestly completely irrelevant to the point being Made—You don’t have to personally consume sexualized content or straight pornography to recognize when something crosses the line into fetishization bc anyone with basic media literacy and tbh common sense can see the difference between a character being portrayed attractively and in an alluring and desirable and a character being reduced to a stereotype or sexual fantasy about their identity.

          No one here said drawing characters in revealing clothing is automatically wrong(which would be obv if you read through a bit closer before replying ) That’s not the issue. The issue is when the only time people start caring about a character or interpretation is when it becomes sexualized in a way that plays into fantasies about race, sexuality, or minority identity. That’s what blind fetishization looks like,only finding a character appealing in a sexual context.

          Your example about fanservice in shows is a completely different conversation. Fanservice can be annoying or excessive, sure, but that’s not the same discussion as minority identities being turned into aesthetic fantasies in fandom spaces because can servicey character can still be well written and appreciated

          And the representation point you brought up is also kind of beside the argument. Nobody said representation has to perfectly match every individual person because thats completely off and also dumb to say bc of course it won’t and shouldn’t be expected to, The discussion is about how fandoms sometimes only validate certain characters or headcanons once they become sexualized, which undermines the actual appreciation of those identities or themes.

          So yeah dude this isn’t about policing attraction or saying characters can’t be drawn attractively. It’s about pointing out a pattern where identities get reduced to something people want to fantasize about. That’s the distinction people keep glossing over.

          Not even to be that person but I hate how asexual its portrayed bc asexuals will act like they can’t comment on sexual matters to look more valid when it just waters issues down to “you only have a problem bc you experience sexual attraction” when that's obv not the case and I find a problem with it bc it objectively is a problem

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          @Ⴑohnny.ƧƧ thank you for correcting me on this, i obviously dont know what im talking about but i do appreciate you not being super mean about it or anything, i shouldn't have spoken about something i didn't know about let alone read all the replys and such

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            i'll go delete my post

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              i'll go delete my post

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              @Yanderemenhera its totally ok! you dont even have to delete the post, this is a conversation and our ultimate goal is to spread awareness on this topic! its ok if you misunderstood, its great, bc it gave us a opportunity to discuss it more and clear up any misunderstandings. like i said, we arent here to argue but to encourage conversation and educate ppl on the topic!

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                i think kekeguri is still relivent, i mentioned it bc the ''fanservece'' i was mentioning was yuri, now you wouldn't think that, i thought it was supposed to be a mix of saw with gambling, that show was beyond odd, i think it had a good plot, but the constant ''tension'' if you like of the girls in freakishly short skirts between the ages of 14-18... it was hard to wach and it really did not need to cater to creapy ass old guys.

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                  @BritishUnity sexualizing and FETISHIZING are different, my fualt for using the world sexualizing

                  i dont mind sexualization as long as its done tastfully and is appropriate for the character (the character isnt rlly young or smth)

                  but fetishization of minorities is fucking disgusting
                  as a girl afro-hispanic person its actually very annoying when the only time people want to see or appreciate people like you is when they think you're hot and want to fantasize about you

                  i understand why yall dont care bc you probably cant relate and it doesnt seem like a big deal but it actually does make some people upset and is just dehumanizing once again

                  i think women in general are easily the most common victim of this but alot of female characters are WAYYY better now

                  anyway thats just my opinion, i obviously get why yall dont see the big deal or dont care but there is a valid reason as to why some ppl do care and want to talk abt it

                  anyway this is just my opinion:P

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                  @_Izzy_ yeah, old video game's female characters might be a prime example of this tbh

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                    i think kekeguri is still relivent, i mentioned it bc the ''fanservece'' i was mentioning was yuri, now you wouldn't think that, i thought it was supposed to be a mix of saw with gambling, that show was beyond odd, i think it had a good plot, but the constant ''tension'' if you like of the girls in freakishly short skirts between the ages of 14-18... it was hard to wach and it really did not need to cater to creapy ass old guys.

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                    @Yanderemenhera i watched this show and the fact that its fetishizing young women/girls (which is a problem in most media, not just anime, and is vry problematic actually) as well as lesbians is actually vry relevant

                    i feel like the classic school girl uniform is actually rlly fetishized which is weird bc like actual young girls wear it to school in japan and i feel like its just strange to sexualize a outfit thats meant for young girls... obviously japan is a vry different culture (not that that justifies anything) but i feel like this trope must have some sort of negative effect on these young girls, its just plain creepy in my opinion

                    i actually liked that show alot thought it definitely had....issues.

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                      @_Izzy_ yeah, old video game's female characters might be a prime example of this tbh

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                      @Yanderemenhera absolutely, but female rep in media in general is improving alot thankfully

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                      • _Izzy_undefined _Izzy_

                        @Yanderemenhera i watched this show and the fact that its fetishizing young women/girls (which is a problem in most media, not just anime, and is vry problematic actually) as well as lesbians is actually vry relevant

                        i feel like the classic school girl uniform is actually rlly fetishized which is weird bc like actual young girls wear it to school in japan and i feel like its just strange to sexualize a outfit thats meant for young girls... obviously japan is a vry different culture (not that that justifies anything) but i feel like this trope must have some sort of negative effect on these young girls, its just plain creepy in my opinion

                        i actually liked that show alot thought it definitely had....issues.

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                        @_Izzy_ It definitely does have an effect, think of like the “JK business” where some adult men pay high school girls to hang out, go on “dates,” or do suggestive things while they’re still in their uniforms. That alone shows how the fetishization of the schoolgirl image start influencing how people treat actual children/students.

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                        • Johnny.SSundefined Johnny.SS

                          @_Izzy_ It definitely does have an effect, think of like the “JK business” where some adult men pay high school girls to hang out, go on “dates,” or do suggestive things while they’re still in their uniforms. That alone shows how the fetishization of the schoolgirl image start influencing how people treat actual children/students.

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                          @Ⴑohnny.ƧƧ its actually crazy bc i didnt REALLY comprehend how fetishization in representation actually effects these groups irl alot TvT

                          like its kinda common sense but i never really thought and talked abt irl examples, this literally proves how fiction can effect reality

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                            I’m going to say this clearly because the way some of you have responded to my post is honestly frustrating in a way that goes beyond simple disagreement.

                            For some reason beyond me my point got watered down into this weird accusation that I “don’t like attractive people of color” or that I’m mad because people find them attractive. That is not what I said, and it was never the point of the post. At all. Yes, there are situations where people immediately sexualize and obsess over certain identities — that absolutely happens online and anyone being honest can acknowledge that. But that wasn’t even the main argument I was making in the first place bffr.

                            Instead of actually engaging with the point I wrote, people decided to turn this into an annoying game of twisting the argument into something easier to attack. I’m being treated like I said “characters shouldn’t be attractive,” or that I’m trying to police what people find appealing, when my post was clearly about the difference between appreciation and fetishization and how people respond to certain identities (race and sexuality) in fandom spaces

                            And what makes it even more irritating is the follow-up responses that basically boil down to “well that’s just how the internet is so you shouldn’t care.” That logic is honestly so lazy. The internet being messy or weird does not suddenly make a discussion about media or behavior invalid. People talk about patterns in fandom and media culture all the time — that’s literally part of being in online spaces,discussion keeps fandoms alive and tbh idgaf if people don’t care for my point bc I’m going to express it either way bc it’s an issue but don’t go in my damn comments talking bout some “the internet is like that so worrying about it is unproductive” bullshit.

                            What really bothers me isn’t people disagreeing with me — Disagreement is normal and I expected that when I posted it bc the entire point was Not only to express an opinion but to get other opinions but what bothers me is watching people repeatedly misrepresent what I said, argue against that made-up version, and then act like my original point was stupid or nonexistent.

                            At that point it stops feeling like a discussion and starts feeling like people deliberately refusing to read what was actually written. And when that keeps happening over and over, it genuinely makes you feel like you’re being talked down to or treated like you’re unintelligent just for caring about the topic in the first place.

                            I don’t mind criticism, but if you’re going to respond to something I wrote, at least respond to the argument that actually exists, not a completely different one you invented so it’s easier to dismiss bc it rly shows unintelligence and ignorance and just ruins conversation amd makes it hard to educate other bc it makes the conversation have to loop back to other vaguely points that distract people from the general topic :(

                            TY the people who tried to understand my point ( @_Izzy_ 😚)

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                            • Johnny.SSundefined Johnny.SS

                              I’m going to say this clearly because the way some of you have responded to my post is honestly frustrating in a way that goes beyond simple disagreement.

                              For some reason beyond me my point got watered down into this weird accusation that I “don’t like attractive people of color” or that I’m mad because people find them attractive. That is not what I said, and it was never the point of the post. At all. Yes, there are situations where people immediately sexualize and obsess over certain identities — that absolutely happens online and anyone being honest can acknowledge that. But that wasn’t even the main argument I was making in the first place bffr.

                              Instead of actually engaging with the point I wrote, people decided to turn this into an annoying game of twisting the argument into something easier to attack. I’m being treated like I said “characters shouldn’t be attractive,” or that I’m trying to police what people find appealing, when my post was clearly about the difference between appreciation and fetishization and how people respond to certain identities (race and sexuality) in fandom spaces

                              And what makes it even more irritating is the follow-up responses that basically boil down to “well that’s just how the internet is so you shouldn’t care.” That logic is honestly so lazy. The internet being messy or weird does not suddenly make a discussion about media or behavior invalid. People talk about patterns in fandom and media culture all the time — that’s literally part of being in online spaces,discussion keeps fandoms alive and tbh idgaf if people don’t care for my point bc I’m going to express it either way bc it’s an issue but don’t go in my damn comments talking bout some “the internet is like that so worrying about it is unproductive” bullshit.

                              What really bothers me isn’t people disagreeing with me — Disagreement is normal and I expected that when I posted it bc the entire point was Not only to express an opinion but to get other opinions but what bothers me is watching people repeatedly misrepresent what I said, argue against that made-up version, and then act like my original point was stupid or nonexistent.

                              At that point it stops feeling like a discussion and starts feeling like people deliberately refusing to read what was actually written. And when that keeps happening over and over, it genuinely makes you feel like you’re being talked down to or treated like you’re unintelligent just for caring about the topic in the first place.

                              I don’t mind criticism, but if you’re going to respond to something I wrote, at least respond to the argument that actually exists, not a completely different one you invented so it’s easier to dismiss bc it rly shows unintelligence and ignorance and just ruins conversation amd makes it hard to educate other bc it makes the conversation have to loop back to other vaguely points that distract people from the general topic :(

                              TY the people who tried to understand my point ( @_Izzy_ 😚)

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                              i honestly understand and agree with you, seeing people who comment but don't get it is mildly infuriating. and i won't even mention the comments which talk about completely unrelated things (like just random sexualized characters which is clearly not the original point)

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                              • Johnny.SSundefined Johnny.SS

                                I’m going to say this clearly because the way some of you have responded to my post is honestly frustrating in a way that goes beyond simple disagreement.

                                For some reason beyond me my point got watered down into this weird accusation that I “don’t like attractive people of color” or that I’m mad because people find them attractive. That is not what I said, and it was never the point of the post. At all. Yes, there are situations where people immediately sexualize and obsess over certain identities — that absolutely happens online and anyone being honest can acknowledge that. But that wasn’t even the main argument I was making in the first place bffr.

                                Instead of actually engaging with the point I wrote, people decided to turn this into an annoying game of twisting the argument into something easier to attack. I’m being treated like I said “characters shouldn’t be attractive,” or that I’m trying to police what people find appealing, when my post was clearly about the difference between appreciation and fetishization and how people respond to certain identities (race and sexuality) in fandom spaces

                                And what makes it even more irritating is the follow-up responses that basically boil down to “well that’s just how the internet is so you shouldn’t care.” That logic is honestly so lazy. The internet being messy or weird does not suddenly make a discussion about media or behavior invalid. People talk about patterns in fandom and media culture all the time — that’s literally part of being in online spaces,discussion keeps fandoms alive and tbh idgaf if people don’t care for my point bc I’m going to express it either way bc it’s an issue but don’t go in my damn comments talking bout some “the internet is like that so worrying about it is unproductive” bullshit.

                                What really bothers me isn’t people disagreeing with me — Disagreement is normal and I expected that when I posted it bc the entire point was Not only to express an opinion but to get other opinions but what bothers me is watching people repeatedly misrepresent what I said, argue against that made-up version, and then act like my original point was stupid or nonexistent.

                                At that point it stops feeling like a discussion and starts feeling like people deliberately refusing to read what was actually written. And when that keeps happening over and over, it genuinely makes you feel like you’re being talked down to or treated like you’re unintelligent just for caring about the topic in the first place.

                                I don’t mind criticism, but if you’re going to respond to something I wrote, at least respond to the argument that actually exists, not a completely different one you invented so it’s easier to dismiss bc it rly shows unintelligence and ignorance and just ruins conversation amd makes it hard to educate other bc it makes the conversation have to loop back to other vaguely points that distract people from the general topic :(

                                TY the people who tried to understand my point ( @_Izzy_ 😚)

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                                @Ⴑohnny.ƧƧ omg you ate that up TvT

                                Anyway, the fact that the issue is so hard for people to comprehend (despite our MULTIPLE examples that even connect to how this issue impacts real people and cultures, like the kimono and school girl example) says alot about society and frankly the forums main demographic...

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                                  @Ⴑohnny.ƧƧ omg you ate that up TvT

                                  Anyway, the fact that the issue is so hard for people to comprehend (despite our MULTIPLE examples that even connect to how this issue impacts real people and cultures, like the kimono and school girl example) says alot about society and frankly the forums main demographic...

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                                  @_Izzy_ it’s so exhausting tryna talk abt any issue on this site so I’ll just smbau 🫩

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                                    i feel like Romani women are kinda fetishized, like i feel like there's this trope of the like alluring mysterious romani and it makes me wonder what the culture is ACTUALLY like bc its always like a hot women specifically or a guy whos a thief

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                                      @_Izzy_ it’s so exhausting tryna talk abt any issue on this site so I’ll just smbau 🫩

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                                      @Ⴑohnny.ƧƧ i feel like it only makes these convos more important

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                                        i feel like Romani women are kinda fetishized, like i feel like there's this trope of the like alluring mysterious romani and it makes me wonder what the culture is ACTUALLY like bc its always like a hot women specifically or a guy whos a thief

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                                        @_Izzy_ “gypsy” is a slur and Romani and Romanian is different 😭 but an example i could immediately think of is chel from a road to el dorado

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                                          @Ⴑohnny.ƧƧ i feel like it only makes these convos more important

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                                          @_Izzy_ Ig so 😭

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