Boys Are Being Conditioned to Accept SA—and “catching print” Proves Nobody Wants to Fix It

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@Sup3rSwaggyy1983i know you were lol i just thought it was a good opportunity to mention it bc alot of ppl talk abt how theres toxic feminist but feminism was never about equality or everyone
womanism was mde by black women in the 19th century and is basically what feminism should be as far as i understand it:P

i just wanted a excuse to yap abt it TvT

BBQboi-_-

@_Izzy_ I don’t likw how TikTok makes both trauma responses so performative bc you can be hypersexual without just being a blatant perv and you can be [censored] avoidant without shaming others for beign interested in the experience,TikTok ruins so much mental health shit and it pmo Sm

w1ckedsticky1983

@Johnny.SS same, it's honestly so sad to see someone fall down the same path as their abuser. Of course there's multiple factors on why someone becomes the perpetrator such as extensive grooming, or someone being mentally ill. However, just because something has reasoning; doesn't justify the actions taken.

Yanderemenhera

@Sup3rSwaggyy1983 as a girl who's had things done to her by both genders, I can say women are usually excused from these acts. and i've seen [censored] nasty things done to men irl and since they were dudes adults didn't gaf about it. but the second something minor happened to me they took me seriously. istg I feel ''privlaged'' looking back on it. it fucked me up more just having to watch that shit more than when it happened to me. I don't hate men or women, I just personally feel like gender doesn't even matter in this, man, women, non-binary? idgaf. every monster is a monster, ever victem is a victim. end of godamn story. men deserve just as much respect as I do and I hate it when people just don't care about men or men don't care about themselves.

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@Johnny.SS not to be one of THOSE ppl but watching and talking abt tiktok trends has made me actually hate tiktok (well, the way people respond to having access to it)

like theres so much disgusting content like the cp minion trend and all the animal torture TvT
theres probably so much more i dont even know abt
once again, not to be one of those people, but people are genuinely way too desensitized to these things TvT

w1ckedsticky1983

@Johnny.SS I honestly should have mentioned the [censored]-avoidant sides in my previous statement, not every trauma leads them to becoming hypersexual. Often times it's the complete opposite, becoming [censored]-avoidant.

There's an amazing movie, not sure if you've seen it, but it's titled Mysterious Skin. The film and book both show the aftermath of two boys being molested as children. I won't go too in depth, but it's a great portrayal of two sides of the coin on what happens due to their experiences. Major trigger warning though, some scenes are hard to watch.

BBQboi-_-

@Sup3rSwaggyy1983 I’ll
Look into it sometime over the weekend 🙏

Yanderemenhera

@Johnny.SS you'd def like happy sugar life

w1ckedsticky1983

@Johnny.SS you should, it's legit in my top 3 films 🥹 it's beautifully shot movie, yet it doesn't romanticize any of it, nor does it make it completely overly edgy, which is a gripe I have about most recent films dedicated to shedding light on trauma's like these.

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@Yanderemenhera no he wouldn't (trust)

BBQboi-_-

@_Izzy_ how come? 😭

Yanderemenhera

@Johnny.SS the anime adaptaion isn't terrible, but it cuts important context, the people who made it didn't do a great job with art either so it comes off as a gross yandere anime to some people due to a lot of the art being toned down to the point some viewers forget its a psychological horror. but most people i've seen online regard it as a great show dealing with tabo subjects, very real horror, and abuse cycles. in my opinion, if you watch the anime, and hate it i'd say just read the manga instead. happy sugar life is damn near impossible to find in stores, but you can buy it online. it's 16+ btw
its story with its art will make you uncomfortable. it doesn't rely on [censored] to envoke fear, it uses its theams and imagery to do so.

Biblecampvictim

@Johnny.SS something serious

BBQboi-_-

@Biblecampvictim gtfu off my post 😭

w1ckedsticky1983

Anyways, back to the main topic at hand 🥹

I know that my "takes" are pretty surface level, which is because I dunno how in depth I can go about these topics without being censored, but whatevz.

I've been thinking about how this kind of behavior is just reinforcing the fact that as time goes on, more people are being taught to believe that their bodies are sexual objects. I mean, how sad is it that people can't even look at individuals normally without their minds going straight towards wondering "how big they are in bed." :(
Same goes for women, theyre the prime target for objectification, no matter how old or young. It's primarily done by creeps, but I think you get what I mean.
Most people can't even look at the human body without staring at gentials, and being like: "hahaha..DIH!! hahahaha... BOOBZ!? 😂😂😂🤣🤣"
I'm not even a purist, I just believe that there's a time and place for sexual comments and it's wrong to be doing all of this out in public. Which, might I add, shouldn't even be a discussion. It should just be standard humanitarian values💔

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@Sup3rSwaggyy1983 i agree, i dont mind dirty jokes, but my friends and art class are so sexual and i used to be outta pocket too but thats when i was 12-13... these are near grown [censored] women talking all kinda crazy things and commenting on eachothers bodies like...

"you have the body of a child but the [censored] of a grown women" - abt to be a grown [censored] women talkin to a freshmen btw TvT

w1ckedsticky1983

@_Izzy_ yo- what the hell 😭😭 a basically grownass women was saying that to a FRESHMAN?? 💔💔 Saying that to someone in general is weird, but ZAWG 😭 they quite literally JUST got out of middle school😞😞 it's kinda scary how many times I've been told that as well, or at least smth similar 😿
Nah, cuz like- I'm all for making sexual jokes or comments myself, I say em quote often actually- but there's just certain boundaries that people needa understand. Sometimes people need to read the room and understand that some things should go left unsaid 😞

BBQboi-_-

@Sup3rSwaggyy1983 she deopped it so casually as well,it was so hard for me to hear,it’s weird and hella embarrassing