A rant about microlabels

[BBQboi-_-]

As a pansexual who’s been out for 5-6 years, I’m speaking up: microlabels in the LGBTQ+ community are largely unneeded and counterproductive. They don’t build real connection or bring people closer to the broader community. Instead, they create pressure to chase a “perfect” label with endless flags and micro-qualifiers, turning identity into more of an aesthetic than shared reality.
This makes the community seem like a joke, and it genuinely embarrasses me as a pansexual to be associated with it. If it’s making someone like me this uncomfortable, it definitely pushes homophobes even further away. That’s the opposite of helpful.
Demisexual isn’t a special identity (legit normal human attraction) Most people are biologically wired to need emotional connection first. Stop turning basic biology into a microlabel. (I’d argue asexual and aromantic shouldn’t be part of the community, but that’s a separate conversation.)
Abrosexual doesn’t even follow the rules of what a sexuality is supposed to be. It defines no consistent sexual or romantic attraction. It’s pointless.
I’d rather have people unlabeled and outside this trend than pretend it’s progress. Enough with the aestheticization i feel Simplicity unites and this divides and discredits us (even if modern gay culture is still embarrassing and ironically feeds into stereotypes and heteronormativity TvT)
This isn’t a space to be blatantly homophobic. Not all microlabels are bad. Just my thoughts—what do you think? Address the topic directly, no whataboutism in the replies.

[_Izzy_]

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[Yanderemenhera]

isn't pan a micro label of bi or am I missing something with that? I get a different answer from everyone I ask and I am curious to hear your thoughts on that @BBQboi-_

[_Izzy_]

@Yanderemenhera pan ppl dont care abt your biological [censored] or gender identity

[BBQboi-_-]

@Yanderemenhera pan and bi are completely unrelated and on different sides of the spectrum,bi is attraction to men,women and nonbinary people with a gender based preference and pan is attraction to all/multiple genders with no/weak gender based preference

[Yanderemenhera]

@_Izzy_ that makes sense

[_Izzy_]

i feel like ppl can just be gay and bi, gay for homosexuals in general and bi for bi and pan ppl, and ace for ace ppl, anything else is doing too much TvT (even tho pan is different its still kinda a stretch and embarrassing to explain, when i told my mom she just said im basically bi:/ )

[Yanderemenhera]

@BBQboi-_ i'm glad I finally got an expenation from a pan person, I hear people who aren't bi or pan explain it and they describe bi and pan as being basically identical

[_Izzy_]

@Yanderemenhera i usually just describe it as not gaf, if ur cute ur cute TvT

[fyodor]

Now I have question for you, how would you prefer the community to value others without using micro-labels?

[BBQboi-_-]

@Adam_ gay,straight,bi,pan and if you believe that aromatic and asexual should be included then you put them in there and then boom evb is happy and can just go unlabeled if they wanna be hyper-specific and now evb is more United

[_Izzy_]

@Adam_ u can value ppl with putting a hyper specific label on them:p the whole pride thing is basically for all non-straight ppl, thats the poing of the rainbow flag so all the extras are unnecessary TvT

[Ventrell]

i think lgbt is enough but i do see yall point woth pan but im not sure isnt bi the same because @_izzy_ said pan is basiclly if your cute your cute bi is th same right ?

[_Izzy_]

@Ventrell bi ppl care abt like gender (y'know like pronouns vs biology) pan ppl dont care

like bi ppl wont date non-binary ppl but pan ppl will

its all stupid and lowkey doesnt matter at the end of the day, just date who u like, all of the labels are unnecessary, they can just say their gay/non-straight TvT

after talking abt it pan is lowkey a OD identity bc it only matters bc of the concept of gender which technically doesnt have to do with sexuality since ppl say theyre separate

[BBQboi-_-]

@Ventrell I have a more detailed and defined explanation based on the widely accepted definition in the community,that was obviously a joke/watered down explanation and even then it’s not at all the same as bi 😭

[Ventrell]

@_Izzy_ ohhh i see now so it shpuld rlly be lgbtp*. Another question what dpes "q" in lgbtq stand for

[_Izzy_]

@Ventrell q stands for 'queer' which is just... non-straight and non-cis TvT

it should just be homosexual and Queer TvT
if i could change it id have gay just mean liking the same gender in general and queer is everything else and thats it, instead of lgbtzhwj community just the queer community:p