Boys Are Being Conditioned to Accept SA—and “catching print” Proves Nobody Wants to Fix It

[Johnny.SS]

@trashghoul I have gotten very casually groped by men and women (mostly women) even within my own family,they're so shameless as well and think it’s a joke when I get angry and tell them to stop touching me

[Johnny.SS]

@Biblecampvictim don’t come in my comments with dumbass ishowspeed gifs,add something to the very serious topic that is being presented or at least give some thought out opinion rather than a lazy reaction image

[Yanderemenhera]

there's a a boy in a manga called happy sugar life. this manga shows the cycle of abuse in multiple different contexts. the boy Tayo is abused by an attractive older woman. I hate the people who'd say he's lucky or whatever like they take stacey's mom by bowling for soup seriously. and guess what? he turns around and becomes a creep people only start getting upset then.

[Yanderemenhera]

I say ''people'' but its mostly single guys who are geneunly that desperate. tho, i garrentee you there's some angry woman on Tumblr or Reddit saying that Tayo should be greatfull for that woman.

[_Izzy_]

@Yanderemenhera the anime community and japan in general have a huge problem with this
sexual harrasment is often treated as a quick joke, even in shows targeted towards teen girls (sailor moon has a bit of casual SA....)

[Sup3rSwaggyy1983]

I've actually seen women try to defend this behavior by claiming it's only natural for them to do it towards men because women have been sexualized for centuries. It stems from women's bodies being openly put on display for men to sexualize them unconsensually, but honestly, this is just really shitty justification. I suppose these beliefs derive from the 'reasoning' provided above, and the fact that it supposably empowers women due to getting their 'lick back at men,' but nothing should justify actions like these. No human being should be fetishized, objectified, nor even have their body blatantly sexualized without consent, especially for something they can't even control (Shocking!! I know!!/sar).

It's immensely strange to see that people are even attempting to justify this behavior. I mean, if you're someone who has experienced SA or has been sexualized, why would you ever wish that on someone innocent? Someone who you don't even know-? It doesn't even take a shitton of empathy or nuance to understand that this sort of behavior is wrong

The so called "feminist's" that deduce this predatory behavior to just being silly and claim that these behaviors are apparently inspiring, don't even deserve to call themselves feminists. The main point of feminism is to fight for the equality between the two sexes; male and female. It's strange to see that many people stereotype all men to be so-called perverts and automatically begin to start objectifying them, hence the infamous catching-print trend occurring. Hypocritical, isn't it? Not all men are creeps, nor or all women Innocent. Behavior's like this divide humanity and continue the cycle of abuse.

It's genuinely disgusting to see how whenever a man gets sexually assaulted, they're considered "lucky" and that they apparently should feel "grateful" for a women even laying a finger on them. I'm not a man, so I can't touch upon this subject as much as you can, but I've been sexually assaulted as a women myself. I've also have had friends that have told me about their experiences in the past, on how they were SAed by a women, but weren't taken seriously for these exact reasons. It's so normalized in this day and age for some godsick reason. It's truly sad to see that these conversations are even necessary in today's society, or considered 'hot-takes.' This is quite literally why men aren't ever taken earnestly.

Obviously, the only initiative that could be taken to at least prevent SA is to teach children boundaries. However, but since most children have access to social media at such a young age, they are going to see these videos and start to begin believing actions like these are okay. Which, is another discussion, but I don't feel like delving upon at the moment. It'd mostly just be a side tangent, but it does definitely contribute to this issue at a large-scale factor.

I'm not quite sure what else I can add without basically just restating any claims you have already made, but TDLR: catching print = bad

[Johnny.SS]

@Sup3rSwaggyy1983 its actually a really huge and common issue for victims to become groomers and perpetrators

[Sup3rSwaggyy1983]

@Johnny.SS sadly it is something that could happen, but it's strange to see that people don't realize their actions actually have real affects on others although, I guess it really could just be dwindled down to "people are shitty."

Of course victims of SA can become offenders themselves in the later future, not all of them follow this path. Honestly, the most common case of what happens is the person becomes hypersexual, which doesn't necessarily automatically mean that they become a sex-offender in the future, but I digress.

[_Izzy_]

@Sup3rSwaggyy1983 not to derail but womanism is equality for both sexes, feminism is white lady propaganda:)

[Johnny.SS]

@Sup3rSwaggyy1983 for me I find it so embarrassing and disgusting to see victims repeat the cycle bc it’s sickening to think that somebody could know what that pain feels likw and choose to force that experience on someone else,it’s so sad to think about,wven randomly when the thought pops in my mind if sel a bit bummed Because it just makes the future so much more evil

[_Izzy_]

@Sup3rSwaggyy1983 i think its a truama response, like they either hate all sexual things or become hypersexual to cope
its a sad cycle and another example of how hurt people hurt other people

[Sup3rSwaggyy1983]

@_Izzy_ thanks for correcting me :)

I was honestly just following the initial meaning of feminism, yk, the one where the original intent was for women to have the same rights at men. I guess the meaning has changed in recent years, but that's another discussion. Thanks tho!! ^^

[_Izzy_]

@Sup3rSwaggyy1983i know you were lol i just thought it was a good opportunity to mention it bc alot of ppl talk abt how theres toxic feminist but feminism was never about equality or everyone
womanism was mde by black women in the 19th century and is basically what feminism should be as far as i understand it:P

i just wanted a excuse to yap abt it TvT

[Johnny.SS]

@_Izzy_ I don’t likw how TikTok makes both trauma responses so performative bc you can be hypersexual without just being a blatant perv and you can be sex avoidant without shaming others for beign interested in the experience,TikTok ruins so much mental health shit and it pmo Sm

[Sup3rSwaggyy1983]

@Johnny.SS same, it's honestly so sad to see someone fall down the same path as their abuser. Of course there's multiple factors on why someone becomes the perpetrator such as extensive grooming, or someone being mentally ill. However, just because something has reasoning; doesn't justify the actions taken.

[Yanderemenhera]

@Sup3rSwaggyy1983 as a girl who's had things done to her by both genders, I can say women are usually excused from these acts. and i've seen fucking nasty things done to men irl and since they were dudes adults didn't gaf about it. but the second something minor happened to me they took me seriously. istg I feel ''privlaged'' looking back on it. it fucked me up more just having to watch that shit more than when it happened to me. I don't hate men or women, I just personally feel like gender doesn't even matter in this, man, women, non-binary? idgaf. every monster is a monster, ever victem is a victim. end of godamn story. men deserve just as much respect as I do and I hate it when people just don't care about men or men don't care about themselves.

[_Izzy_]

@Johnny.SS not to be one of THOSE ppl but watching and talking abt tiktok trends has made me actually hate tiktok (well, the way people respond to having access to it)

like theres so much disgusting content like the cp minion trend and all the animal torture TvT
theres probably so much more i dont even know abt
once again, not to be one of those people, but people are genuinely way too desensitized to these things TvT

[Sup3rSwaggyy1983]

@Johnny.SS I honestly should have mentioned the sex-avoidant sides in my previous statement, not every trauma leads them to becoming hypersexual. Often times it's the complete opposite, becoming sex-avoidant.

There's an amazing movie, not sure if you've seen it, but it's titled Mysterious Skin. The film and book both show the aftermath of two boys being molested as children. I won't go too in depth, but it's a great portrayal of two sides of the coin on what happens due to their experiences. Major trigger warning though, some scenes are hard to watch.

[Johnny.SS]

@Sup3rSwaggyy1983 I’ll
Look into it sometime over the weekend

[Yanderemenhera]

@Johnny.SS you'd def like happy sugar life