Odd/specific green flag you look for in a potential partner?

[_Izzy_]

Someone who is charismatic/good at socializing, but doesn’t actually have close friends
This sounds weird but me personally most ppl in highschool aren’t worth actually being friends with and I like someone who can make the active decision to not get close to people that won’t actually be on the same level as them in the long run, plus quality over quantity and I wanna be the main relationship they focus on (even if it sounds selfish)

I think the way people feel they need to have friends and be apart of a group or can’t handle being alone is pathetic but natural, but personally I want someone who’s, above that, but not in a corny way like someone who wouldn’t have friends anyway bc they're weird or socially awkward (I actually would NEVER date a socially awkward or “quirky” person TvT), I mean like someone is good at socializing and they do have a lot of fond acquaintances but they aren’t interested in making close friends who they don’t think will be successful in life

What are y’all’s oddly specific or weird green flags you look for in a potential partner?

[NightmareWolfie]

Asking a person not to have close friends because they're better than that based on your judgement of others is a rather large RED flag-

[NightmareWolfie]

But to each their own of course

[_Izzy_]

@NightmareWolfie woah woah woah
I’d never ASK them
I was saying if they choose to it’s a green flag for me
Also if I have to ask then it defeats the reason why I think it’s a good sign bc then it’s not their decision TvT
I think you misunderstood my post l, I wouldn’t ask someone not have close friends lol
And it’s not a red flag if they do ppl should have friends i just appreciate someone who’s independent
I agree with you, asking someone not to have friends is weird af

[NightmareWolfie]

@_Izzy_ Oh I see, still an odd thing to want but I did in fact misunderstand, my apologies

[_Izzy_]

@NightmareWolfie Thats kinda the point of the post lol

[Johnny.SS]

@NightmareWolfie that is not at all what was said

[NightmareWolfie]

@Johnny.SS WELL I'VE SEEN IT HAPPEN SO I WAS STATING MY OPINION (For clarification this was playful)

[NightmareWolfie]

It was a misunderstanding </3

[Johnny.SS]

@NightmareWolfie well yeah but context matters

Let’s stop derailing,let’s hear your green flag

[Johnny.SS]

@_Izzy_

When someone remembers small, random things you mentioned weeks ago—it shows interest.

When someone can sit in silence with you, particularly after a heated moment or while you’re upset, and it’s not awkward but calming—it shows comfort and trust.

When they adjust physical space subconsciously, like moving slightly so you’re on the inside of the sidewalk or closer to them in crowds—it shows awareness and a level of effortless care for you.

When someone isn’t overly nice to people they don’t need to impress. Basic respect is a given, but forced positivity can be a sign of being a pushover or not being genuine.

When they hand you the better-looking piece of food without thinking—it shows they’re willing to provide in small ways.

Being excited to tell you about their past—it shows honesty and interest.

Going out of their way to check in during intimate (not exclusively sexual) moments, especially if they have background knowledge about your traumas, past, and dislikes. It may seem basic, but many people rely purely on body language and don’t take the time to actually check in,it shows care and understanding.

When they slow their walking pace to match yours without you asking—basically not rushing ahead or making you speed up, just naturally matching you.

When they find comparisons between you and their surroundings or are reminded of you by random things. This can range from “this random dude reminded me of you,” to “this Snorlax plushie looked like you,” or “I saw these brownies at the mall that you’d love.”

Having a good natural scent, or finding my natural scent attractive or intriguing. No specific explanation—smell is actually very important to me in defining who I’m compatible with.

Completely disregarding the opinions of outsiders on realationship matters and the overall realationship–never helps and actively ruins relationships,it’s OUR realationship,not theres,any opinion or action taken should exclusively be the result of personal thoughts and interrelational meditation

Not feeling comfortable joking about cheating or leaving for someone else—small, but it shows respect. It also shows that you aren’t willing to casually disrespect the relationship. Boundaries differ from person to person, but anything that could reasonably be interpreted as genuine or create insecurity should automatically be treated as a hard no unless both people have clearly agreed otherwise.

Allowing me to be defensive when faced with sarcasm or rude behavior, and having the situational awareness not to immediately criticize me for asserting my boundaries or refusing to let even common disrespect slide. Think of a genuine conversation—usually about something trivial—where someone suddenly becomes condescending. Naturally, you’d feel offended. A partner who understands that reaction shows common sense and a genuine interest in not embarrassing you or escalating the situation further. If it’s especially awkward or tense, sometimes the best option is simply to step away. It also shows real respect for your boundaries—because if someone takes offense at you asserting yourself, they likely don’t truly ,care about your feelings or limits,you fingshouldnever expect your partner to be a pushover with you,esp if you only feel defensive when it’s smb your partner takes issue with—knowing damn well that you wouldn’t gaf if you were the one being disrespected,don’t defend smb that a close one is beefing with,it’s hella embarrassing and could easily be a private comment rather than a public embarrassment and week long feeling of being unheard and humiliated for your potential partner,if you want to shoehorn yourself in the situation,act as a mediator rather than picking sides,makw yourself useful instead of somebody to be ashamed of

[_Izzy_]

@Johnny.SS this is alot for me to write down

[Johnny.SS]

@SweetLikeTarmac if you’re going to comment, at least give a response for the prompt monkey

[Johnny.SS]

@SweetLikeTarmac don’t derail >:(

[_Izzy_]

@SweetLikeTarmac i dont mind derailing if its actually funny/positive, plus the post wasnt getting engagement anyway lol

[_Izzy_]

@SweetLikeTarmac whats a odd or weird green flag you look for in a platonic partner?

[Johnny.SS]

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[Sofii]

@Johnny.SS constitution 2.0

[haydencc08]

being confident but not overly confident if you know whzt i mean... also being honest

[Johnny.SS]

@haydencc08 are these not a green flag for
Everyone and kinda what builds relationships